Hey guys!
Over the weekend I was reading Marion's post on THE SINGLE GAL. (CAUTION: This is a FASHION post dudes!). I am not a fashion geek; but I like not only to see how the ‘other-half lives’; but also learn from a diversity of smart people--Marion is smart (If you love to read the post; click here to read.
DISCLAIMER: Dudes; don’t come down on me after reading the post—I have already told you is about fashion/relationships; specifically for single gals).
I learnt a few years ago how critical this is—learning from diversity of smart people--and how it can enhance your life in a way you never thought possible!
You see, often times we think that things are SO DIFFERENT; and our situation is TOTALLY UNRELATED to someone else’s. But in the bigger scheme of life; nothing is so far from the truth! When I read Marion’s advice tip on Marriage is not the only goal; it left me wondering how we can really get short-sighted; miss the most important things in life; and drag our feet around being miserable and unhappy!
Let me show you:
How Marion’s Post Relates To Your Life And Career.
You often times see gals and dudes; getting obsessed and wedged in wrong relationships; or even worse; feeling sorry and miserable because they are single. They get so preoccupied with this, that they miss the fact that there are other VERY IMPORTANT things in life. In fact, so important; that when you get those things RIGHT; that very thing that is ‘driving you crazy’ get solved automatically—almost effortlessly.
There is something I call “The ONE-RIGHT-BUTTON technique”. Smart people know how to press the right button; and cause a series of ripples that positively affects other areas of their lives for better. And that’s what makes them elite. They don’t focus on everything! They know that some things could be corrected without necessarily focusing on them; but turning your attention to something else which is more important.
That very ‘Core Thing’ that; once you fix it; causes a ‘Correcting Effect’ on other perturbing areas of your life is what I refer to as ‘ONE-RIGHT-BUTTON’. The elite also know that once you focus on what MATTERS MOST; you can accomplish a lot; with comparatively minimum effort. You do one thing; and the rest fall in place almost effortlessly. One of RIGHT BUTTONS—Smart people know--is your CAREER!
Relationship For Instance:
Often times; we are very delusional when we are young. How many times have you seen a dude; in a bad relationship; or obsessed in a gal; and overlooking his career? It’s like waking up one morning and saying… “I am going to messy up with my career; to get that gal!” Outrageous, right? But we do it all the time—as ridiculous as it may sound! When you spend a lot of your mental power; focusing on something so delusional (a relationship that will never work); you are trading your career for it.
Instead of channeling all your focus and effort to building your career (truth be told: bad relationship suck; they drain your motivation; siphon your ability to focus; stifle your mental power; and push you in a rat-hole); you are saying ‘I would rather win this; and throw my career to the dogs’!
Here is how we rationalize it: “I will be so happy when I marry her/him!”… “..I cannot afford losing her/him!” We often deceive ourselves that someone else will make us happy. We think they will make us complete and satisfied. WRONG! WRONG! WRONG! Those are just mere hallucinations and you need to come out of your stupor! That’s not how things work!
What we rarely get is; they are also not happy; and they are finding someone to make them happy too—remember they are also delusional as you are. Bring two miserable people together; people who are ready to throw their careers to the tank for a delusional relationship; and they will be thrice as miserable!
Someone tell me why we are so STUPID when we are young!
If you are a The Elite Performer reader you cannot afford to be that daft. I will not let you be. And today I will show you how to be different. In fact, the whole of this year; we will focus on how, by changing your CAREER; you could change virtually any aspect of your life. Then, I will go ahead further; and show you how you could bring about that change in your career!
So, keep your eye on this blog; or even better still; go ahead and subscribe to Elite Instant Access; so you will not miss out on what is happening here! So, instead of focusing on chasing; and being miserable—losing it in both your relationship and your career--what could you do? Right; that questions turn us over to ‘The Elite’s Mindset’. What do they do? What could they do?
Digging deeper:
The POWER Of LEVERAGE.
The best of the best have a different mindset. They see things differently (including relationships); use a totally unconventional approach to life; and focus on the linchpin in all aspect of life; about the areas they want to win. They have learnt to employ the “Power of Leverage.”
Let me explain to you what “Leverage” is: this is using something you are already doing to get other things done at the same time. It’s like taking to do X; then using it to get Y and Z done; with same or a little extra time and effort.
LEVERAGING Your Career To Build Other Aspects Of Your Life:
While the rest of people see their career and relationship as a separate thing; WINNERS see an opportunity of getting the latter in place; using the former!
Think about this: Instead of separating your career life and relationships. Instead of getting obsessed with the fact that you are have no ‘girlfriend/boyfriend’. Even worse; instead of getting stuck in a bad relationship trying to ‘proof yourself’ to someone who might not be interested in you; what if you did it differently? (And btw that very ‘proofing yourself’ makes you look like a marionette to the other person—disgusting; because no one wants to hang around with marionettes).
So, what if you focused your energies and mental bandwidth on your CAREER, first? What if you made up your mind; and did what it takes to become so damn good at what you do; to the point that you become irresistible to your peers; teammate and your boss? What would change in your life?
Pause for a moment. Think about that for a minute. How would your life change? What other areas of your life would be impacted by that SINGLE DECISION and ACT of focusing on your career and “CHANGING IT UPSIDE DOWN”?
The answer is; it could change ALMOST EVERY AREA of your life; including your relationships. Let me walk you through a few possible areas that would be impacted tremendously—even though your will not be preoccupied in improving them. These are things that will just fall in place automatically; because you have focused on what matters—your CAREER!
Have a read:
- Feeling Complete; Satisfied And In Control
When you are so damn good at something; you feel that you are making a contribution to the people around you—and the world. That gives you the internal satisfaction. You feel complete and in control of your life. You no longer let people throw you around; because ‘there is something you know’. You know you hold high stakes; and you are unwilling to stoop too low; for anything or someone. That is what I call power. That is being in charge. That is taking control of your life!
Does that play key role in attracting the right partner? Yes. In fact, it’s one of the most critical factors. Think about this: would you want to be in a relationship with someone who feel incomplete and out of control? Often times throwing tantrums? You know the answer to that!
- You Get In Control Of Your Finances and Hold High Social Value.
Yes, you need to put your shits together! And once you become the ‘Only Guy In The room’; things start to change. Being exceptionally smart at what you do means you earn more. You earn MORE MONEY; yes; but notice it’s not only money; or even about the money. It’s about something else more. Money is a small fraction; of your rewards when you focus on being elite!
You earn MORE RESPECT (people listen when you talk); you get MORE PRIVILEGES; you get a ticket to join the HIGH SOCIAL CLASS. You get to make MORE BETTER FRIENDS--than the one you were dying to please. You open up MORE OPPORTUNITIES for yourself. There are people YOU WILL NEVER MEET until you get to become the BEST. That is even worse; if your ‘TO-BE PARTNER’ lies in the category. What that means is you will NEVER GET TO MEET HER; and consequently you will settle for someone you shouldn’t (and have a haunting relationship for the remaining USELESS years of your WORTHLESS life). By focusing on becoming an ace performer; you get introduced to MORE VIP’s. MORE…MORE…MORE follows you.
- You Become Irresistible
Do you notice how getting your career together; and being stunningly great affects other people? It changes the way they treat and perceive you. They come to you; and because you are the one in power; you decide ‘who is who’—and the rest? Well you keep them in you ‘Friends’ zone’. It turns out the way to draw people; is not to chase them—even in relationship.
End result? AWESOME CAREER and a GREAT RELATIONSHIP—because you will attract someone of your caliber! This is a WIN WIN WIN situation. YOU WIN in your CAREER. SHE/HE WINS to find someone of her/his caliber. The RELATIONSHIP WINS!
Dissecting What Is happening Here:
Can you foresee the huge positive change that will occur in your life time over time? You get MORE …MORE…MORE… of what is GOOD. Notice you’ll be moving from AVERAGE…to GOOD…BETTER…to WORLD-CLASS! That is what happens if you use the Elite Approach for radical positive change. There are others accruing benefits; I have not even mentioned!
Something is happening here! If you look beneath the hood; you will notice that this post is not about relationship; or just career. It’s about a very critical skill in life--LEVERAGE. I am showing you how to press just “One-Right-Button”; and get things rolling and lubricating every other areas of your life. We are all cognitive misers; and when we focus on so many things we lose control; get over-run by issues; and melt down to mediocrity. You don’t have to!
Focus on one thing (Your Career This Year); that will dramatically change other areas. That is what WINNERS do. That is the POWER OF LEVERAGE. There other “Right Buttons”; we shall be exploring many of those as the year progresses; so you will no longer have to worry about other many things—including…“I wonder whether she/he likes me or not!”--and at the same time becoming a star-performer!
Remember, “The Elite Performer” blog; is not about being just a performer in your job. NO. It’s about CHANGING OUR MINDSET; building an awesome life where you are respected; and compensated appropriately. It’s about surrounding yourself with not only the right and smart ones; but also building a better relationships. It’s about crafting a lifestyle you want—and focusing on a few things that matter; and having the rest of your life falling in place.
You do not have to un-puzzle everything in life and about life today. NO! Step by step this year; I will show you the quintessential parts that you can focus on; and the rest will fall in place. You do not have to feel overwhelmed; just stay tuned here; and by the end of 2015; you will have put ALMOST all THE PIECES together!
As for your WINNING BUTTON this year; focus on your CAREER!
Now, I would like you to do one more thing. Go down there at the comments and leave a comment. I would like you to share just one insight that you have learnt from today’s post; and how you intent to use it to change your life for better. You can share several take-aways if you so wish; but I ask you to tell me just one key insight; and how you intent to use it? And don’t be too general; be as specific as possible!
I read all your comments!
Talk soon
Prince.
P.S. On Monday next week; I’ll be talking about the “The Law Of Complementary Accomplishment” and how you can use it to set in motion a ‘MULTIPLYING EFFECT’ in your career successes! You don't wanna miss this!
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