THE "GETTING INTO YOUR INTERVIEWER'S HEAD Mini course"
Hey Top-performers, it’s Monday again and I’ve got your backs!
This month we are going to be spinning it differently. I am excited to let you know that you are going to be getting a series of INCREDIBLE and COMPREHENSIVE INTERVIEWING elite materials from me. These Elite high-end interviewing materials are going to be like almost no other interviewing advice you have probably ever read. It's a Mini-course interviewing material that will enable you to interview like a pro.
Think of how it will feel like; to wake up in the morning on the material day; and you know that you are going to interview 90% better than anyone else? And you know the right strings to pull; so you can get your potential employer salivating for you. This is what I call 'Reversing the Game'. It's what top-performers do and in this Mini-course, I will show how; and what you can do to achieve that. I want you to win!
It’s called the GYIH Mini-course (Get into Your Interviewer’s Head Mini-course). I will walk you from the 'Outside-In' game; so you can interview like the elite!. You will learn:
#. 1. Exactly WHAT YOU SHOULD NOT DO prior and during Interview.
#. 2. The reason WHY SHOULD NOT DO IT and the pernicious effect of doing it.
#. 3. Precisely WHAT TO DO INSTEAD
Notice you can use these materials to not just getting your dream-job (for the first time); but even to switch from a job you CURRENTLY HATE to ONE YOU LOVE. You can use it to literally get PROMOTION within your current organization.
And then we are going to poke fun of most of the career pundit’s worthless pieces of advice you hear from the 19th century. Btw learning and rising to elite levels of competency doesn’t have to be always painful! We start off a little bit from the outside; and then we will accelerated to the pith of the Interviewing game. Just so you do not miss on a single material; go ahead and subscribe; and I will be sending these exceptional interview materials direct to your inbox.
now that we are all good; let’s dive into it:
Employers Don’t Employ Suits. They Employ Smart People!
We are getting right into it; and kicking it off with a very ridiculous and worthless piece of career advice that you’ve heard about--probably before you were born. Then you were born…and they drummed it into your head…then you tried; and it didn’t work. And does not work…
It’s when they tell you:
“Dressing incredibly smart separates you from the rest of the candidates in an interview!”
Really? Wait a minute! Who ever, passes an interview in the Google generation because they are well-dressed?
Don’t we see it; that two guys go for an interview; one incredibly dressed; and the other comparatively less dressed? Yet the later beats the former?
I have seen these many times. People dress so smartly when they are going for an interview –which I find it hilarious because they never dress that smart any other time. They put on their best suits; as if employers are fashion-designer geeks. They have been told in college… “To win in an interview; you need to dress smartly; and be on a tie.” WRONG! WRONG! WRONG!
Throw The Old Useless-Chestnut Through The Window:
Who wakes up early in the morning and says… “To day I wanna go into the supermarket; buy the eggs with ‘great shells’ regardless of how putrid they might be”? The truth is no one. Not even you of the 19 century career pundits. You know why? Because that is insane!
What these ‘Dress-better, plastic-smile, firm-handshake’ experts don’t realize is the fact that the value of an egg is not on the outside shell; but the inside nutritional Value; and the freshness of its inner-content. Let me cut them some slack—I think they know. (But someone tell me why they don’t get it? Don’t they read something to do with nutrition if they are that smart? )
The reason why they keep on playing the humdrum that ceased to work many years ago is because they are out of touch with times and reality. They do not know any better; than what they already know! Too bad for them!
The truth is, dressing professionally you MUST; but that is ONLY a fraction of the BIG GAME.
Am I saying you can dress how you want for an interview? No. Am I saying you can dress crappy when you are going for an interview and nail it? Not at all! You will be shown the door if you walk into the interview room with you APOLLO T-Shirt.You need to dress like the professional you are; or appropriately; but thinking because you have dressed comparatively better than everyone else you are going to nail that job is delusional. that is not wear the REAL GAME is!
Instead; you should focus on when gets you a WIN; rather than waste time and money on something that is not going to set you apart. Besides; who in the world cannot wake up and grab a good suit & ironed shirt during the material day? Everyone does that. It’s easy to do; but it does not set you apart--because everybody is on suit that day. The hard truth is:
“Employers no longer employ suits; they employ the ‘human being’ in those suits.”
BENEATH THE SUITS: The Social Skills-Set That Make You Stand Out!
So, let me show you what you need to focus on instead. It’s something that will take you a little more time; but it’s worth the effort. Not just because it’s going to guarantee a competitive edge over anyone in the interview room; but because it is going to set you for success in any other aspect of your life; once you get it right. If you have been on this blog for a while—and reading my material; you know the first rule of thumb for the elite performers:
It’s worth to put in a little bit of extra time; and win for the remaining part of your life; rather than using a ‘Quick Fix’ approach to the things that matter; and end up a loser for decades to come.
Think about this: You are going to be around for years; and your career matters. Who you work with and where you work has direct bearing to your level of fulfillment; plus the scale of your achievement. Why not fix it once and for all—even if it will require a little extra time and effort?
So, let’s focus at the long-term fix by addressing very critical non-verbal tech; your interviewer can pick on right away. (College did not teach you this; and they are not going to do it soon) Remember if you are horrible at this; your suits mean nothing. Your interviewer is not looking for suits;(did you know she/he's got many of those?) she\he is particularly about THREE things:
1. How you could make her/his life better.(solving problems in the organization)
2 How that helps the company. (How does solving those problems help the company save money? or does it help the company generate more revenue)
3. Whats your game plan to make that happen. (How are you going to leverage that those problem-solving skills that you have to make that happen and move the company's agenda forward)
So, before you even get to that in word; you need to send the right signals that you are the guy he needs on board to achieve these three things he cares about. The blunt truth: Your interviewer does not care about you; so unless you send competency signals to to show that he should consider hiring you; and you can deliver the above; you and your DESIGNER SUITS are out! Your Interviewer is not a FASHION DESIGNER geek!
Here I will show you two social skill-set that you should work on to start sending the right competency signal; right off the bat.
- The Negative Body Language
Non-verbal communication techniques count for over 90% in all our daily communications; and top performers leverage it to exude high level of competency –without necessarily saying anything—during an interview and in all their daily interactions.
The interview starts from how you walk into the company offices during the material day. Employers are looking for confident and competent candidates. Not babysitters!
What You Should NEVER Do:
#. 1. Dragging Your Feet And Slouching Stance:
Who wants to employ ramblers? No one! Smart people take calculated steps as they walk; they never drag their feet. Dragging your feet as you walk signals that you are tired; bored; jaded and you lack direction. And that is not a good-fit for a competitive company! So you are out! (Notice you could be highly competent; yet you ramble along--unknowingly)
Ever watched how confident and top performers stand? They never slouch nor stand with their feet close together as if they are paying due respect to the hosting of the national flag—unless the national flag is being hosted. Don’t support your body with one leg; or have your head bent low; that is a very negative signal of lack of confidence.
#. 2. The Rushy-Short-Steps:
Another thing to watch-out for; as you walk is having rushy-short-steps. It sub-communicates nervousness; and lack of control. They communicate weakness; and to some extend neediness. No interviewer is seeking for the weak and needy candidates. Interviewing rooms for highly competitive companies are not Rehabilitation Centers!
What they do is take in highly competent candidates; who generation value; and then they can now contribute to rehabilitation centers! So, you are not their favorites! Sub-communicate that; and you will never hear from them again!
What To Do Instead:
Instead of taking rushy-short-steps; walk at a slower pace with slightly longer steps as usual. Do that as you walk in or around the company offices. This is something you need to practice on your daily interaction; not just for the interview. Walk at a slow pace; and avoid rushy-short-steps. Ever seen how the powerful ones; people with high social value walk? They are never in a hurry. They sub-communicate that they are in control through their walking style. That is what you want to exude every day. The good news is; it’s a learnable skill; and it does not cost you dime to learn.
Your stance communicates volumes about you. Stand with your feet apart. Refuse the tendency to lean on one leg. Get your chest forward; head held high; and shoulder low and slightly backward. by doing that you become taller that you usually are--its a powerful and an irresistible stance Your hands should freely hang to the sides. (Notice, they should not hang limply ) I call that a ‘power-pose’. It is the style for the socially elite; and highly successful people. Do it every day until you own it. Interviewers are able to pick all those as you enter in the room!
Have you noticed something so far? When I talk about ‘social skills’; I am not talking about being “too nice for door-mat”! No. I am talking about subtle social cues that you can display subtly and silently; that demonstrate that you are the guy to work with. You are confident and can be relied upon! so that when you say to your interview... "I can solve this: And this is how"...you've already send the right signals before that has told her/him you are the guy she/he must hire!
- Your Sitting Posture
When you sit down at the interview room; your interviewers can pick signals from you based on how you sit. And they start making judgment about what kind of candidate you are. Did I say sit down at the interview room? NO! I was wrong. It starts on how you sit, as you wait at the lobby! Long before the interview ever gets started!
When you exhibit low competency triggers during that time; you are out of the game; before you ever step into the room. Top performers know that; and they know how to send the right competency triggers right off the bat!
You want to be that star performer? You want to ace the interview right from the way you sit waiting; so that by the time you enter the interview room; your interviewers and everyone has good judgment about you? Here are few sitting postures you MUST AVOID; or else you might as well not go for the interview:
What Not To Do Instead:
#. 1.Hands Crossed To Your Chest:
Have you noted how ladies naturally position themselves when you are approaching her and she is not sure about who you are? And especially when you draw close to her? Yes, you might be a sniper; or a serial killer--how could she possibly know you when she has never met you before!
Ever paid attention to what they do? They naturally cross their arms across their chest. What they are saying is “You creep me out! I am not sure of who you are. And so am going to keep my personal space. I am being protective—not welcoming—so don’t come too close!”
Crossing your arms across your chest is a No-No sitting posture. High competent people always send out open gesture! They are comfortable of who they are. They know they are performers and seem to always say--using their non-verbal signals-- “You are always welcome to talk to me”
Crossing your hands on your chest as you sit (or even stand) sends the non-verbal signals that you are “warring off intruders”.
It says... “I am highly protective; I feel insecure around here; and so I am going to guard myself. You guys should keep off!”
Guys do that; but this negative gesture is most rampant with ladies. We all do it unconsciously; but now you know; and you MUST at all cost avoid it! Socially skilled people are welcoming; and confident.
#. 2. Avoid Fidgeting With Your Hands:
Make sure you also don’t fidget with your hands. Why do we usually feel uncomfortable about being relaxed? Do not hold anything on your hands; or toy around with your pen; or anything during the interview. That not only is it distracting to the interviewing panel; but it shows you are not focused; plus sub-communicates nervousness.
#. 3. Don’t Slouch As You Do On Your Couch:
At the interview room; you are not there for candies! Don’t slouch on the seat as you do in your house when eating cookies with you remote control on your hand as you watch weird TV programs.
When you slouch; you look like an amorphous lump of scared idler. You come across as someone who is lazy and who cannot be relied to get things done. That is very unprofessional signal.
Your Magic Sitting Posture:
Just get your hands on the side and be relaxed. People with high social value sit up-right with their hands on the side. Their feet are firmly and flat on the ground; and a foot apart. You could place your hands on your knees—this is incredibly high ‘power pose’ for men.
Notice; when you place your hands on your knees; you don’t do it as if you are supporting your torso. Make sure you are up-rightly sat—not leaning forward with your upper-body. If your seat has arm-rest; just rest your arms on them. This shows that you are comfortable; confident and open. It sends gestures of openness and readiness to be engaged.
The Common Mistake People Make
Someone would read today’s material and say… “Oh…now I know what to do in my forthcoming interview. I will just walk in and employ all that!” And then they wait eagerly for the material day; thinking they have their problems solved.
The honest truth: No you won’t it; and you can’t! You will fail incredibly that day.
Just because you “know it” it doesn’t mean you shall do it. You need to “practice it” until it becomes an integral part of you. You never practice this in front of our interviewer—that is bound to fail! If you look at these social skill-sets as a ‘quick fix’; and you wait until the material day, you will fail with a bang.
And this is why: “It’s easy to start practicing this with your friends; than it is to practice it with your interviewer on the material day in the interview room.” Let's be realistic!
When you take this approach; by the time you get to the interview; you’ve practiced it at coffee shops with your buddies; strangers; and in your social interactions until it has become part of you.
Why That Matters?
It’s easy to do it with your friends. You get to notice how they start taking you serious—even when you talk. You observe how they start treating you with respect! Things start to change! People you do not know start paying attention to you! And you know that this stuff works in changing other people’s perception about you (you target interviewer included). With that in mind, you are fully aware of its power; and it easier now to do it right before the interviewing panel. Top-performers don’t just wing it in the interview room. They prepare beforehand!
Have You Noticed What's Happening Beneath All These?
What do you notice in this material? Looking under the radar; you will realize I am walking you through social techniques you can employ right away; not only to ace dream-job interviews; but also to become powerful; influential; irresistible using social dynamics. That is what TEP (The Elite Performer) is all about. You can use them to internally advance your career within the organization; and get promotions. And we are getting deeper and deeper. I want you to be awesome socially; and demonstrate high degree of competency—not timidity—off your college grade papers.
And we are going several layers deep next Thursday—and through the GYIH Mini Course.
Now I would like you to do one thing. Leave a comment; telling me: What’s the one thing you’ve learnt; and specifically how are you going to use it to change your career?
I read all the comments.
See you here on Thursday!
Prince
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